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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 9:35 am    Post subject: Funny old thing... Reply with quote

Life.

This morning, I received news of a third death in my family in the past week.


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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 11:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry to hear that, Rach.

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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 12:33 pm    Post subject: Re: Funny old thing... Reply with quote

R2Icon wrote:
Life.
I don't get sad when people die (not old people anyway) cos,well, it's not really unexpected, once you're over 50, it could be any day and that would be quite normal: living to a ripe old age is a relatively modern thing: funerals make me sad though because lots of people are sad at funerals, it's that, that upsets me.


You wouldn't like to revise that age upwards a bit would you, Rach?
Quite a bit upwards - If I were to go tomorrow it would be unexpected, and I would hope that everyone I know would feel likewise.

I think that if someone is healthy and active, even well into their 70s, their sudden demise might make you feel sad. If on the other hand someone has been suffering ill health for a long time the feeling is different.

As if I needed a reminder of mortality, in the last couple of years two of my erstwhile colleagues, of similar age to me, have died - one totally out of the blue, which was a shock, the other after a long struggle with cancer, for which one can only feel relief.

The tone of most funerals these days is not one of prolonged sadness - they are more akin to a memorial service. The part which always affects me, having to choke back a tear or two, is when the coffin is carried in.
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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 2:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Maybe 60 then, Ron Smile 70 at a push, perhaps 80 on a good day, could even be older than that.
What I mean is people die for all sorts of reasons at all sorts of ages, and that is normal, which is why you should never give up exploring the possibilities of life. When people get to about 50 (generally speaking) they stop wanting new things and experiences, what the 50yo+ seeks is safe, familiar, usual, normal, stuff that they know they like. It's like when you have a Chinese Takeaway, you chose a number 6, a 17b and a 34 because you know you'll like it but do you recall the excitement of chosing that 17b for the first time? The not knowing if you'll like it is the key to a long life. Playing it safe all the time is the psychological equivalent of curling up to die . Well that's what I think anyway. Our neighbours have lived next door for the past 30 years, every week they do exactly the same things at the same time, and in the same place, they even replace their old car with a new one the same , Golf number 4 since we've been here, even the same colour. I'm rambling now, not quite sure where this is going.... sounds exciting!
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PostPosted: Sun Jun 02, 2013 9:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

R2Icon wrote:
It's like when you have a Chinese Takeaway, you chose a number 6, a 17b and a 34 because you know you'll like it but do you recall the excitement of chosing that 17b for the first time? The not knowing if you'll like it is the key to a long life.


Applies to buses as much as Chinese Takeaways! Wink
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 04, 2013 10:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

R2Icon wrote:
Maybe 60 then, Ron Smile 70 at a push, perhaps 80 on a good day, could even be older than that.
What I mean is people die for all sorts of reasons at all sorts of ages, and that is normal, which is why you should never give up exploring the possibilities of life. When people get to about 50 (generally speaking) they stop wanting new things and experiences, what the 50yo+ seeks is safe, familiar, usual, normal, stuff that they know they like. It's like when you have a Chinese Takeaway, you chose a number 6, a 17b and a 34 because you know you'll like it but do you recall the excitement of chosing that 17b for the first time? The not knowing if you'll like it is the key to a long life. Playing it safe all the time is the psychological equivalent of curling up to die . Well that's what I think anyway. Our neighbours have lived next door for the past 30 years, every week they do exactly the same things at the same time, and in the same place, they even replace their old car with a new one the same , Golf number 4 since we've been here, even the same colour. I'm rambling now, not quite sure where this is going.... sounds exciting!


"When people get to about 50 (generally speaking) they stop wanting new things and experiences,.."

What ??!! Shocked Shocked
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